Can you get through this post without a huge AHA?

Hey mama-bear,

Once you discover your God-given superpower that your thoughts really do create your reality, a whole new world opens up...

ESPESH when you’re flyin' high. You couldn’t be more proud that this feeling creates your future. You get invited to a concert last minute, you’ve been to spin class 3 times this week, and you made an extra $1000 this month in bonus’. “YES!” you think “I created this!”

But what’s it like when you ain’t feelin’ so hot?

What about when you had beer for dinner last night, skipped your spin class for the 3rd week in a row (from all the beer) and your boss needs you to work this weekend?

How do you feel about yourself when you know that you created THIS reality?

Us conscious creators are faced with a difficult dilemma when it comes to the knowledge of creating our own reality and the high integrity we have.

Like, instead of just dropping a carton of blueberries at the check out counter (like I did last week), we make it mean something more than that (like I did last week) …

When something “bad” happens, we make it mean that something is wrong with us.

“I’m so stupid. What did I do to deserve this? What an air-head. I shouldn’t have done that.”

Here’s where we start to subconsciously shame ourselves.

Particularly, when you want something real bad - like your baby - and you haven’t yet created it, despite huge efforts. Here’s where the shaming gets even stronger.

But here’s the thing…

Contrary to religious beliefs, the Universe doesn’t judge you. (I like to think that it doesn’t even have eyes.)

It doesn’t look down on you and declare that dropping blueberries is “bad” and it certainly doesn’t affirm that not getting pregnant is “bad”. In fact, there’s no such thing as bad.

What it detects is how you FEEL about what just happened. Your energetic response.

The Universe isn’t keeping you from getting pregnant because of the beer you had for dinner. It’s responding to the energy of the guilt and the shame you felt when you did, with more experiences of guilt and shame. 

Here’s where you have the freedom to ask yourself these simple questions when something supposedly “bad” happens to you:

What am I making this mean?


Is that really true?

For example:

“I’m making it mean that I’m lazy and undisciplined if I’m not eating 100% clean, working out every day and making my bonus at work.”

And it’s important to really allow yourself to feel that shame in order for it to pass (This shouldn't last more than a few seconds if you're doing it right...).

But YOU get to decide if it’s really true.

The irony is that when you allow yourself to just feel, the resistance of needing to control your feelings begins to dissipate. And you do tend to make healthier choices from this space of non-resistance. But it’s important to remember that you are a human. You are not perfect. And sometimes, those imperfect moments of saying NO to doing and YES to just being, is exactly what the doctor ordered.

Lots of love,

Xo Spenser

“Shame says that because I am flawed, I am unacceptable. Grace says that though I am flawed, I am cherished.” – Michelle Graham

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