A 14 day challenge of wanting what you want. Without your brain talking you out of it.
$10 • Starts June 1st
On Telegram. In your earbuds. In your actual life.
You know that feeling when…
You know that feeling when you want more? More joy. More cash. More babies. More support. More fun. More rest. More life. But almost immediately, your brain starts negotiating with you.
"Be grateful." "Don't ask for too much." "Now's not the time." "Maybe once life calms down…"
You know what you need — but override yourself. You're hurt — but talk yourself out of your feelings because you don't want to be dramatic. You're exhausted — but push through anyway. You want something beautiful for your life… but somehow end up talking yourself out of it before you even begin.
Not because you're lazy. Not because you don't care. Honestly? Because you care so damn much. You're thoughtful. Capable. Sensitive. Deep-feeling. In touch. You've learned how to hold a lot — a lot of responsibility, a lot of emotions, a lot of pressure.
But maybe somewhere along the way… you stopped letting yourself want what you want. Not fully. Not honestly. Not without guilt.
You've been incredibly devoted. Just maybe not always to yourself.
Devoted to keeping the peace. Devoted to getting it right. Devoted to everyone else's needs. Devoted to carrying it all. And honestly? That gets exhausting.
We've been taught that wanting things comes with a cost.
Psychologists call this zero sum thinking. The belief that every gain comes with an equal loss. That you can't have more without someone having less.
If I rest → I'm lazy.
If I buy the dress → I'm irresponsible.
If I ask him to cook → I'm not holding up my end.
If I want a big career AND a baby → I'm selfish.
If I choose myself → someone else loses.
So every desire feels like it comes with an automatic invoice. So you keep saying no to yourself. Because good girls say no to themselves and yes to everyone else.
But here's what 10 years of doing this work has taught me »
The thing you think will cost you everything? It's actually the thing that gives you more.
When she rests → she shows up fuller.
When she receives → she’s got more to give.
When she chooses herself → her partner leans in. Turns out independence is irresistible.
When she buys the dress → something in her feels sexy and expands.
The frozen pizza didn't make her a bad mother → It made her a present one.
That's what Devoted is really about.
Here’s how Devoted works:
Step 1 — Sign up.
$10. One time. No catch. You're in.
Step 2 — Join the Telegram chat.
You'll get a link straight to your inbox. Click it. You're now in a room with women who get it. Like, actually get it.
Step 3 — Show up exactly as you are.
Not the healed version. Not the version that has it together. This one. Right now. As is.
For 14 days starting June 1st, I'll drop a voice note into the chat.
One devotion. One without.
One dismantling of the belief that you have to sacrifice what you love to get what you want.
Here's a taste of what's coming:
Devotion to money — without feeling like you have to justify every dollar you spend on yourself.
Devotion to indulgence — without the fear of being too much.
Devotion to rest — without the guilt that shows up the second you sit down.
The other 11? Well you'll have to join us to find out.
Who’s Devoted for?
The woman trying to get pregnant who's lost herself in the process.
The mother who loves her kids fiercely and also desperately needs something that's just hers.
The visionary who has a big dream and a brain that won't stop talking her out of it.
The ambitious career woman who's working so hard and can't figure out why it's not flowing the way she thought it would.
The anxious woman who knows what she wants but can't stop second guessing herself.
The overwhelmed woman who has a lot going on and somehow still feels like she's not doing enough.
If you read one of those and felt something — you're in.
You in?
$10. One time. No catch.
Honestly?
You’ve probably spent more than that talking yourself out of something that mattered.
Or buying something that distracted you from what you actually wanted.
This one?
Feels different.
Hey, I’m Spenser.
For a long time I believed the lie too. That to get what I wanted I had to sacrifice something I loved. That the baby would cost me the business. That the rest would cost me the results. That choosing myself would cost me the people I loved most.
I spent 8 years TTC. And the thing that finally changed everything wasn't a protocol or a procedure. It was the moment I stopped believing that getting what I wanted required giving up who I was.
I conceived naturally. Built a million dollar business. Madly in love with my husband, and we have 2 wild boys.
Not because I sacrificed. Because I stopped sacrificing.
I've spent 10 years helping women understand that same thing. You don't have to give up what you love to get what you want. You just have to change what you're running on.
14 days of wanting what you want. Without your brain talking you out of it.
$10 • Starts June 1st
On Telegram. In your earbuds. In your actual life.