HELD IN HER STORIES: When control stops working

Nov 18

Hey gorgeous mama-bear,

Ahhh – you don’t want to miss this one!

The 3rd episode in our HELD IN HER STORIES series is for the woman who’s smart (Like, scientist smart), resourced, doing all the things… and still feeling anxious underneath it all.

Today I’m talking to a member of FMBM with a PhD who came into fertility like it was a science experiment — 5 rounds of IVF, deep in the research, treating her body like a problem to solve. And then she walked through IVF and miscarriage… and had to learn how to trust her body again after loss.

This convo is raw and so, so validating.

We get into:

That belief: “If I don’t control every detail, it won’t work” — and how it actually creates more contraction in the body
Anxiety and OCD on the fertility journey (we actually name it) and what it looks like to stop resisting the resistance.
Moving from “I can think my way out of this” to “my body is telling me in real time what it needs”
Rebuilding trust after loss
And the sweetest part: creating relationship with baby before they arrive (her French blue nursery curtains are iconic)

She said, “I realized how much I withheld love for myself. Once I let myself have it, I became a better wife, daughter, and future mom.”

And I have to say it plainly: what she learned inside Fertility Mind-Body Mastery was how to love herself before becoming a mother — so she didn’t need a positive pregnancy test to give her permission to do it.

The amazing news? Self-love isn’t just a cute concept — it’s biology.

Because when you start loving yourself, your body finally feels safe. Your nervous system settles. Your hormones find balance. Your heart opens up to receive life again.

Learn more about FMBM right here gorgeous.

Xo Spenser