HELD IN HIS + HER STORIES: Rebuilding trust in your marriage while TTC

Nov 25

Hey gorgeous mama-bear,

If we’re honest… for a lot of us, TTC quietly turns our partner into a project.

Did you take your vitamins?
Don’t get in the hot tub.
Drink more water. Not that beer.
Let me just manage literally everything so this can finally work.

On top of tracking, appointments, and Google spirals… you end up carrying the mental load for you, your body, and your partner.

And suddenly, the person you fell in love with feels more like… a fertility coworker you’re constantly correcting. 😬

Today’s podcast is medicine for that part of the journey.

🎧 New episode: Held in His & Her Stories — with my husband, Dan.

In this episode, I bring my husband Dan (yes, the famous spreadsheet-loving money guy 😉) onto the mic to talk about:

What happens in a marriage when control becomes your default survival strategy
How our differences (he’s a doer, I’m a feeler) almost pulled us apart… and then became our superpower
Why healthy conflict is not a sign that something’s wrong, but the doorway to deeper intimacy
What it actually feels like, from a man’s perspective, when he’s being micromanaged vs. trusted
The quiet, very un-Instagrammable power of vulnerability — and how it made our marriage feel like a dream again (his words, not mine 🥹)

We also share really honest stories about resentment, asking for what you need, emotional check-ins, and the moment I stopped being “mom” to my husband… and started letting him rise as my partner again.

If you’ve ever thought:

“If I don’t control this, it won’t happen.”
“If I let go, everything will fall apart.”
“I’m exhausted from holding all of this by myself…”

…this episode is for you.

And if your partner is open to it, this is a beautiful episode to listen to together. Let it be a starting point for one honest conversation about what you each need right now.

Xo Spenser (+ Dan)

P.S. If this episode hits a nerve around control, trust, and carrying the whole mental load… that’s your invite into The Surrender Session on December 6th.

It’s a free live masterclass where I’ll walk you through the 3 Pillars of Trust so you can start feeling safe to let go (without dropping all the balls you’re holding). Save your spot here.